I’m not sure who quoted the adage but it says that you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. I frequent a number of online magazines and see firsthand how mean and cruel online commentators can be behind the anonymity of a computer. I feared that no one would read it or that those who did would give less than positive feedback. I had feared the same thing would happen that I would write something in the present and look back on it in the future embarrassed by my own ideas. I put off starting my blog for a long time out of fear.
It brought back memories as if they had just happened but also reminded me of how immature and silly I was to have thought such things. I remember reading it much later in life. I’ve always enjoyed reading and writing and kept a diary when I was in middle school. You live and you learn.īoth fear and faith have one thing in common: they cause you to believe in something you cannot see.
At that age, I rarely looked at a man’s ring finger, but now it’s second nature. He said that he thought it was sweet that I felt nervous, thanked me for the note, but had to decline talking further because he was married. He didn’t call, but he did text me back a few hours later. In the note I cited my fear shyness and hoped that he would call. I ended up leaving before him and decided to write my number down and stick it on the front of his windshield. It turns out that he just needed something from his car but wasn’t actually leaving. How is it that his smile assured me that I was okay, yet I doubted myself to the point of believing he was out of my league?Īfter feeling embarrassed from my less than lucid speech, I went back into the gym without asking for his number until I saw an opportunity to take the creeper status a step further. I have a few of my own, so I half lied and asked him if he had gotten it done in the area as if I were really interested.Įven though he didn’t seem to mind my interruption, my fear would not subside.įear has got to be one of the most debilitating emotions there is. On one hand I liked not having witnesses to what could be a moment of distressing rejection, but on the other hand I wondered if I looked like a total stalker. I followed him out of the gym to his car. My sweaty appearance was less than the first impression I’d want to make on anyone, but I knew that if I didn’t say something, anything, that I’d regret it. The nerves were no better now than when I’d first seen him. While I mustered the audacity to introduce myself I thought, “If he’s still here by the time I’m done, I WILL say something.” My workout was a crutch of procrastination. I wanted to approach him but didn’t know how or what to do without drooling. I couldn’t tell what his background was but he reminded me of Dwayne Johnson. If you're going to a restaurant or venue, try figuring out what's expected by looking up photos of the establishment online.I was pedaling away on the elliptical machine when I saw what looked to be a modern day Adonis across the gym. If you aren't sure what to wear to an event, ask other men who will be there what they plan on wearing.Nobody wants to wear a dark suit and jacket in extreme weather. Cities with warmer climates may be more lax with dress codes.Casual wear covers just about everything else, such as the classic T-shirt and jeans look.
This is a good look for networking events, evening parties, and first dates. Pair with a blazer for a smarter look or a sweater. Wear a collared shirt, slacks, and dress shoes. Business casual is a happy medium for when you want to look sharp without overdoing it.Your dress shirt and tie can be colorful as long as they don't clash or look tacky. For more formal occasions like a job interview or wedding, stick to a dark matching suit.You may not be the type of guy who wears a suit every day just make sure you own one for when you're expected to wear it. Wearing clothing inappropriate for a situation may make you appear unprepared or foolish.